Exploring the Root Chakra and Its Connection to Our Sense of Belonging

“Do I allow myself to belong?”

"Do I allow myself to belong?"

I wrote the question and my experience of the question. What do I do to not allow belonging? Why do I not allow myself to belong? Do I feel like others are in charge of my belonging? What has happened in my past that had me decide that I don’t belong?

The answer was clear:

No. Not for the past 13 years.

A car accident had changed everything. I had to quit school, quit work, and shrink my life down just to feel safe. The injuries, the illnesses, the treatments—they became too much. I missed gatherings. I kept to myself. Sometimes, illness real or as an excuse, gave me the perfect reason not to go.

My Quiet Years

But underneath all of that, I was protecting something fragile inside me.

As I wrote that question down, I realized I had already been processing it. After the accident, that changed. The fear of not being accepted, the pain, the handicaps and the exhaustion kept me small. Quiet. Safe.

I had hid because being invisible felt safer. I remembered growing up, moving constantly—always the new girl. And as a grown woman, I became the new girl again, with just my family an avoiding and two friends in my community, it was time to expand my communities. That brave, animated little girl in me had once made friends easily, but she always felt like she didn’t belong. Her community was never set. Not the same house, not the school and not the same friends. That brave little girl allowed others to take her just as she was, now it is time to let others take me just the way I am. The new me, the one who has been through the mental darkness and getting diagnosed with bi-polar and starting on psych meds, the darkness of the mental disease was almost as bad as the physical pain. The physical pain and rehab and the tamped down spirit that came out of such dark times. I survived, I was a new me.

Once I started to feel better and was ready to process the always alone, I started letting go of that old belief…that I did’t belong.

And slowly… I began to open.

Choosing Belonging Again

I went to events. I joined a 55+ women’s coffee and luncheon group.

I even started my own coffee date and met some fabulous women.

Suddenly, community wasn’t just possible—it was real and I belonged.

*This is just an example of one inquiry on the Let’s Chakra Chart.

When we pause to ask ourselves a question—and allow an honest answer—we open doors to healing, belonging, and connection.

Join me in a journey of belonging,

Bobbie

The Let’s Chakra Kit