From my Heart to yours: Grounding, Healing & The Root Chakra

Hi Friends,

As time goes by, I’ve felt a pull to share more of life with you—real life.

We live in a time where social media often highlights the good. And don’t get me wrong—that’s something to celebrate! But sometimes, when we only see the highlights, it can leave us feeling like we’re not measuring up… like there’s something wrong with us if we’re struggling.

There’s a balance. We don’t need to air all our dirty laundry, but I believe in the power of sharing from the heart when the time feels right. What we go through is sacred and personal, but also something that can help others feel seen and less alone.

So today, I want to share a piece of my journey. Not for sympathy—but in hopes that it inspires you. That you’ll know: wherever you are right now, you are whole and complete. Highs and lows… all of it.

Let’s Talk About the Root Chakra

The Root Chakra—this is where all other chakras grow from.This chakra is about survival, safety, and grounding.

To be grounded means being fully present in the moment. It’s being anchored in reality, connected to the Earth, balanced, stable, and peaceful.

The root chakra is where we develop our sense of safety, belonging, and connection to life itself.

And I have… quite a bit of experience with this chakra.This next part is tender. I’m not here to shock or dwell on the pain, but to create space—for you, too, if you ever want to share your story. Find a safe space, speak with trusted counselors, and open that dialogue for yourself when you’re ready.

Early Childhood and My Root Wound

It’s said that the root chakra begins forming right after birth and is most active through ages 3 to 5, sometimes up to 8.

For some, grounding comes naturally. For others like me, it’s a daily practice—a ritual.

During those formative years, I experienced severe trauma.

My father was in the Navy and gone a lot. My mom and I moved from Charleston, South Carolina, to Idaho to live with my grandparents for support. My grandpa worked on the railroad and was often away. My grandma was home, and my teenage uncle lived there too.

What happened next is something I’m still working through with counseling.

My uncle began sexually abusing me when I was very young. The abuse happened downstairs in the blue bedroom, past the coal room. He would close the door… put a sock in my mouth… and threaten me to stay silent.

I was told that if I said anything, he would hurt my mom.

At that age, how do you tell your mom something like that? Especially when you’ve been told she would be hurt if you said a word?

I survived it… hid it… but the message written deep into my nervous system was: I am not safe. I felt in my nervous system through anxiety, for many years to come.

(I’ve since shared with my parents, and I speak this only in love and healing—not in blame.)

The Healing Journey

Fast forward to when I was 36: recently divorced, living in a small apartment with my two boys, and beginning massage school.

This is when my healing journey took on new life.

I started receiving regular bodywork—massage, acupuncture, craniosacral therapy. I cried during sessions… more than once. Sometimes the tears wouldn’t stop. My body was holding decades of pain, fear, and survival patterns.

One day during acupuncture, it all broke open. The body shaking, gut-wrenching sobs, uncontrollable grief. My acupuncturist came into the room, sat by me, and held my hand as I finally spoke the words: what had happened to me as a child.

That was the beginning of truly cleaning out the trauma lodged in my body.

Coming Back Into My Body

As the process continued, I noticed changes:

• The stiffness that once felt like armor began to melt.

• The chronic pain in my feet lessened.

• I learned how to ground… how to let the Earth help me release.

• The survival upset, finally had space to move.

I turned to journaling, dancing to loud rhythmic music, and even coloring—big, messy crayon art that expressed the chaos inside until one day…less chaos and darkness started appearing on the page.

Little by little, I stopped shrinking.

I stood taller, my full 5’2” of me.I learned meditation. I learned how to concentrate, how to let go. I started to trust that I could be in my body and be okay.

A Loving Reminder for You

If you’re reading this and feeling something stir inside…

Ask yourself:

• Am I unintentionally hiding?

• Do I feel scrunched up, small, or afraid to move forward?

• Is it time to ground myself—really ground myself—and come back home to me?

• Wherever you are today, know this: you are worthy of safety, healing, and peace.

Start small. Even just a moment of grounding—breathing deeply, feeling your feet on the floor, noticing your body—can make a difference.

You’re not alone.

With love,

Bobbie

The questions asked, the coloring, dancing and grounding are tools from

my Let’s Chakra Chart.

The Let’s Chakra Kit